Ghosting is good, why?
Well, I am sorry, not sorry to have an unpopular opinion here because I may have acted like a victim of ghosting in the past, probably when I was on the receiving end… But as I grew up and realized ghosting is actually a dignified move and I will tell you why...
…Now when I say ghosting, I don’t mean Ghosting your spouse, family or real friends, not applicable to your inner circle. Ghosting is to WIP People you talk to or probably getting to know.
When people are initially talking, it is not candid as much as we pretend and we do keep things a bit under the cover, why? Because not everyone deserves the truth and some people genuinely take time to open up ( Hello, introverts). Now when you are in the talking stage, you may find someone a tad bit annoying, demanding, clingy or just not your TYPE.
Now all those people who ask for honest answers and a MATURE CONVERSATION don't really want to understand the other side. Usually, they demand an apology at the least or a reason that will make them look like HERO and GHOSTS an A-hole.
Ghosts may be A-holes, indeed. I belong to the clan so I can say that but there is more to us. First of all, people may not necessarily be mature enough to have a conversation and even if they are, nobody fancies a confrontation because that is UNCOMFORTABLE and AWKWARD. Now you can have those uncomfortable conversations with people you know, but why would you want to explain your side of the story to someone you hardly know…? Just to be self-righteous. That's a lot of PRESSURE there.
And now receiving end group will very sweetly dismiss me with “At least tell us”. Ok, we tell you, then, what? You send us angry texts, make us feel guilty and probably judge us royally. Who wants that drama, I don't!
I would rather pleasantly disconnect and move on than actually sit down and have this really awkward moment in my life.
Why I say ghosting is dignified is because the reasons we are moving away from someone may not be pleasant and that is not our place to correct or change them.
I say, if things go down south, move away rather than sending mercy texts or maintain a cordial friendship under pressure.
We can choose to disconnect with no explanation because eventually you really don't owe explanations to WIP people.Also, a reminder when people went full savage mode on us, they never explained. (No, this is not retaliation, but an experience that shapes us)
Our decisions/ choices stem from our ordeals and whatever brings peace, we shall do that to protect our hearts because you know, no one else will.
Now, to team B ( Ghosted), I say stop looking for them, consider them real dead and move on because they are not coming back and more importantly we don't want them back anymore.
Judge harshly if you may, but not everything is explainable. Some questions are best left unanswered.
Respect the ghosts and ghosted, enjoy people in the moments and trust me you really need no FOREVERS.
