How did Nirbhao Nirvair change my life?
If you know me personally, you know that I follow this from around 2010 before it became a tattoo fad motivated by Lilly Singh.
This is the Sikh Verse that I resonated with very early in my life and based my big and small decisions on this idea. This verse is close to my heart and almost represents me.
For people unaware of this let me introduce you to two great life-changing words
Nirbhao — Without FEAR
Nirvair — Without HATE
NIRBHAO- Without FEAR
We waste most of our life dodging things that make us afraid, nervous or slightly hurtful. Believe it or not, fear is holding you back from the most important choices in life you are about to make. I am not saying jump the cliff and win your fears, NO! If you want to jump the cliff, learn how it is done safely, take the precaution that you should and then jump. Fear will confine you in spaces where you don’t belong. Fear paralyses you to your comfort zone and before you know you become too limited in your perspective and life.
We may never want to agree to be fearful but most of the time we are dreading either society, our loved ones or our conscience. You will ultimately customize your brain to accept that whatever you have not done, is beyond.
Have reasonable fears of not jumping in front of a bull or hopping on a snake but needless evading risks and being apprehensive of moving out of your comfort zone is narrowing. Prohibited areas look excellent at buildings and not in your mind.
Let your soul run free, try what you feel like and don’t worry about the outcomes because regret is way worse than disappointments.
Nirbhao taught me to be courageous in the pursuance of freedom from expectations, burdens and that perfect plan in my mind. If tomorrow someone tells me they don’t want to be in my life, I have no fear of losing them because I did everything to make them feel loved & important but if their journey is not aligned with mine, no force or effort in the world can stop them. When you love people, learn to love them generously with no expectations and anticipation of getting your affection returned your way.
It is easier said than done, I agree. I am learning and so can you..!
NIRVAIR- Without HATE
If you ask me, I will not say in an average self-help guru way that hate is heavy, let go of that… I will want to reveal to you why hate is huge, the amount of energy is taken to sustain a dislike or hatred per se in your heart is way more than you can presume. Hatred is a full-time job that you never get paid for.
If you love someone, that is effortless & flows from within whereas hatred is built over a while.
I will tell you I genuinely don’t HATE ANYBODY. I am not saying this because my life has been rosy and all unicorns. People did me dirty, the people I trusted blindly, my closest ones went out of the way to disappoint/ hurt me. Do I hate them? NO.
I loved them, I decided to love them & include them in my life. How can I go from love to hating people who I love/ed? Love never ends, I don’t think so anybody can become indifferent to someone who they once loved. You train your mind to look for their faults and how they wronged you to affirm that dislike/ hatred. However, love is your instinct towards them. Layers of hatred are added over the bedrock of love, understand how much work it demands?
Let go of the sense of revenge, bitterness, resentment. Let people do what they have to, you do YOU. Don’t keep your head and heart heavy over people who won’t spend a minute thinking about you.
Again, easier said than done, however, I have been following this for more than 10 years and believe me it makes your life much more peaceful.
I am not saying stand BS and then also smile but If you don’t want someone, then let go. Don’t carry baggage in your heart and defeat bad experiences with a smile and faith that you will not repeat them.
At last, when you let go, make sure you LET GO!
I never block people on my social media because blocking is an intense reaction and shows that it bothers you. When someone stops meaning anything to you, let them be. That’s my way of doing things, do what calms you.
While the world is busy complicating your life, let me simplify by saying be simply fearless and don’t waste energy on hate.
